How does this affect your life?

If you do not love yourself, you will always be lacking.

You will feel empty inside.

Worst of all you will look for love from others, who cannot be relied on.

You are the only person you can trust to always love you!

Only then can you allow another to love you because you are not totally dependant on them for your feeling loved and they can never take that away from you.

The main reason is that we are the only person we spend the whole of our life with.

Think about that!

That comment really made me think the first time I heard it. It took some consideration before I realised it was right. 

If we look for others to love us there will always be gaps in our lives when there is no one around to love us the way we need to be loved.

The real truth though is that no one will ever love us the way we should be loving ourselves.

We are so harsh with our self judgement, that we at best dislike ourselves and at worse hate ourselves.

Quite often we don't even acknowledge who we truly are.

Some people can have an internal image of themselves that is nothing like the truth

They then hate looking in a mirror because they don't like what they see.

These new aps that let you change what you look like are so popular  because people do not like themselves.

We are so influenced by images in the media, and what people tell us

 we should be like

This gives us the totally wrong impression of who we should be.

Who we should be is the person in our hearts.

We are who we are!

No amount of trying to make others happy

 or attempts to look like the media images

 will ever make us happy

because we are not being true to ourselves.

The biggest mistake we make is that we do not appreciate ourselves!

We forgive others for not being perfect, for having faults and for being human. 

We should love ourselves as the imperfect, unique person we are!

We should love ourselves because

no one else will be there to love us for all our lives.

1. Look at your self in the mirror each morning and tell yourself.
2. I love you despite your faults
3. I forgive you for not being perfect
4. I honour you for being human and being who you are.
5. Give yourself the respect to have opinions and the strength to voice them. Not in a nasty way but if someone is disrespecting you or your opinions, practice nice ways to tell them you have a different opinion. You are entitled to that and should live by that. Surround your self with like minded people and people who love who you are and want the best for you, not for what you can do for them.
6.  Stop agreeing when people who put you down. Yes, we are not perfect, and we can all be wrong, but it is your choice whether to learn and grow and change. You will when it is time, now may not be the right time for you but that is your choice no one elses.
7. Comfort yourself! Allow yourself time for you, whether it is a soak in a hot bath, walking in nature or curling up with a good book. Me time is important! Enjoy it, nurture yourself.
8. Be kind to yourself. Stop criticising yourself there are plenty out there that will do that but what other people think of you is none of your business.
9. Love yourself. You are beautiful because you are you. You are special because you are unique. There is no one else who is like you, has your traits, your thoughts or your love. Love your imperfections because they are what make you special.
10. Stop needing others to love you. You are beautiful and when you can see that everyone else will see that because your inner beauty and love will shine through you. Then when someone special comes to love you make sure they love all of you for what and who you are.



 Because you deserve nothing less.