How does this affect your life?

Fear can hold us back.

When Dolly came up for sale, I knew I couldn't let anyone else buy her. I had to have her.

I never even considered the commitment of keeping a horse as something to fear. At that point, all that mattered was not letting Dolly go elsewhere.

For the first time in my life I planned. I asked questions about costs. I made it happened and I bought her.

When I told Neil I was buying her, I never doubted myself.

This was the first real decision I had ever made for myself., without asking for other people's opinions or for permission.

Dolly was the first decision I ever made where I listened to my heart and fear was never an issue.

So how do you go about changing things?

This can seem so difficult and actually it was one of the hardest things I had to learn. I did not plan. I fell from day to day letting life flounder along.

I did not realize I had the choice where my life led me. In fact I felt every choice was so limited by my situation that there was no choice.

There are always choices. We just have to believe that those choices are possible.

When you want to change something, think about the situation and think of how things could be different.

Then start to believe they can be different, because if you don't believe things can change you will never have the power to make it happen.

Yes I said POWER!

There is one very important thing about belief.

If you do not believe in yourself you will never succeed.

This is fact!

Believing in something makes it happen more quickly and more easily.

Without Belief that something will probably never happen.

Why can I say this?

Belief makes changes that can be seen.

If you believe in what you are doing you are confident  .

Confidence shows and so people around you start to see that you are going to make this happen.

Often this will encourage them to help you where they wouldn't help someone who was half hearted and less enthusiastic.

The saying "half hearted" encapsulates this perfectly.

Without belief your heart isn't in what you want to do.

True belief comes from the heart.

Once you do truly believe then amazing things can start to happen. This is called synchronicity. It is not some magical myth, it is fact.

OK so what is synchronicity?

It is a series of coincidences that start to happen to help you achieve your goal and it is as true as you are reading this page. It is something that happens when you truly believe in yourself to make something happen. It is not mumbo jumbo and it is a sign that you are on your path.

Lets say you are planning on buying a new car.

All of a sudden everywhere you look you see that make and model of car.

This is synchronicity, but it is also how our brain works.

Our brains have so much input all the time from sights, sounds, smells,

tastes and feelings. To cope with all this input our brains have filters which show us what we are most interested in. So when we dream of buying a car the filters let through all the input about that car, where before it was just part of the background that our brains filtered out.

Our brain now shows us everything to do with that car that we would have missed before. This means that you may see a great offer that you may have missed before, or even meet someone who is selling that exact car.

It feels like options are suddenly there for us, but actually they would always have been there but our brains would have filtered them out before we believed.

These are only two ways that belief really helps you achieve your goals,

there are many more.

Some people may try to hold you back, when they see the power of your belief. This is because they do not like the changes in you.

It may make them afraid they are losing you.

If you are finding this you will need to work on Boundaries.

 I would like you to feel quite strong and understand what you are trying to achieve before you start asserting yourself in this way.

So now read about Overcoming Fear, but come back to the previous pages as many times as you need to build up your

Gratitude and Self Love.

Good Luck and remember     -    You never fail until you stop trying

Believe and you will achieve.

Even if what you love seems a million miles away if it comes from the heart it will never leave you. My father told me as a teenager that only the rich have horses so I had better forget having my own. I listened and for nearly 30 years cut myself off from the horse world. When my depression was really bad my brother asked me what I wanted to do with my life. Through my tears from nowhere came "I want to ride a horse" and that was the beginning of finding myself.

I started riding lessons, Dolly came into my life as a riding school horse, then she was going to be sold and within a year I was a horse owner at 46 years old.

It had been inside me all these years, from riding donkeys on Skegness beach as a child and had never left me.

 I am telling you this because now I can see there were so many ways I could have had horses in my life for all those years.

I could have shared a horse.

Had one on loan.

I could have made it a priority that I went for riding lessons and become known around the local yard and with the other riders.

I was 47/48 years old when I took my NVQ level 2 in Horse Care as a part time course.

I could have done that when I was 20 years old if I had looked in the right places to find the information.

Instead I chose to believe my father and closed my eyes and my mind to all these options.

So I am telling you;

you want to get more help round the house with the chores,

whether you want to change your job or even change your career:

the choices are out there.

If you believe you can do it you will.

​So what do you choose to believe?